The challenge is the not-self . 
The term not-self is used to define any human being making decisions that are based on the authority of his mind. The greatest form of ignorance comes from this one error in logic: the assumption that one’s beliefs are true.
Nature has designed the human brain to accept data from parents up to about six years of age, and, during this time, the child does not evaluate incoming data. Unfortunately this data is not evaluated by the parents before it’s passed on to the child. The child is taking in all kinds of false data for 6–10 years, the brain changes after 10 years old. The child then starts to evaluate incoming data against the data already stored in their mind.
Misdiagnosis is was is keeping many children from realigning again with the true self, prescription drugs are given to cover up the misdiagnosis.
Misinformation continues to lead these children into further difficulties, eventually leading them to psychosis. The parents have become dependent upon an external authority, so it only makes sense that they are not going to find accurate, advice, or a solution.
We’re taught to become something that’s already been established and we have too many people operating in the not- self which has created our present state of affairs.
Why do we compare?
We are all impacted by multiple channels of media that perpetuates propaganda and projects dramatized and sensationalized discord and violence. We are affected by all of this, we are sensitive beings that absorb everything that we hear and see.
We compare because of our educationial system, religions, family values, our environment, media, fashion, politics.
The not-self strategic mind is a survival mechanism to emotionally and psychologically control or conquer another.
Comparison creates a number of issues, competition, greed. We loose our identity in comparison, as we try to emulate, or judge people we create a distorted view of perception, and become lost in the external.
To take responsibility for one’s life is supremely important.
It is very important for us to embrace responsibility through self-awareness, looking within without judgment or attachment, to simply be the witness to the inner world will naturally allow us to see others without judgment.
This basic knowledge and common sense go a long way when it comes to nurturing our child’s talents. These are some of the building blocks to creating a responsible human being who will grow and integrate naturally into society, knowing how to create balanced relationships.
Education should not teach jealousy and competition. In our education system today, people are forced into categories that do not necessarily fit their individual uniqueness.